Dating again after a recent break up?

Breaking up at the end of a relationship, no matter how long, is not easy. We are constantly meeting new people in our everyday lives but how many do we stop and approach? Both in my own personal experience, as well as dating advice I recieved years ago, the biggest obstacle in preparing for a date is gaining the confidece you are a likeable person. The firt thing to do is think about what makes you the person she has been looking for. I'm not talking about any specific trait or attribute, but what is it that makes you the guy you are. Establishing yourself as a man on his own (without being cocky or over confident) can be an important part of the whole process that keeps your date interested. As well, avoid talking about your most recent relationship unless the other person brings it up. Nothing says "I'm not over my ex" more then someone who relates every event back to their past relationship. She wants to know your interested in her and that the past is the past. These two area's are just a few pointers that can help your date go well even if you recently stepped out of a relationship.

So how do you that its not to soon? make sure you back up and ready to start dating again and that your comfortable with the fact that this time should be different from your last and your ok with that. If your still caught up on your previous relationship it won't be fair to you or the new person thats interested in building a valuable relationship

The First Date

The first date is truly one of the greatest events in life for someone seeking love.  Are you looking for the guy/girl, you wish spend the rest of your life with and are flooded with a lot of ideas, such as what you want in a man/woman? But no matter what you have on your mind, going on a first date should be no high pressure situation, and there are a few very simple things you should follow. Below are 10 first date tips that can help you ensure that first date is not the last date.  These tips are  intended to assist you and can be adapted to meet your specific situation. (1) First of all ensure that you do something you both enjoy doing.  Doing something you both enjoy allows you to create a base around the date which will supplement the remainder of the tips below you put the well so you can focus on the rest of the datingtips below. (2) make sure whatever you do, it is not as intense, as this can completeley eliminate the conversation and the entire point of getting to know eachother. (3) Have a good plan. Don't leave date plans until the beggining of the date, you can be flexible around your plans to accomodate your date but have an idea of how the time spent together should go. (4) Use your compliments in moderation, nothing says "I'm trying too hard" then flooding your date with constant compliments. Use these in moderations and wisely to let the other know your interested in looking forward pass this first date. (5) A sense of humor is so very important in every respect. Lets be honest, everyone enjoys a good laugh especially when trying to feel comfortable around a stranger. See if you get it to crack a smile or laugh with your favorite jokes or even a situation you found yourself in. (6) Do your best to be yourself and most important don't lie! People sometimes try too hard to impress others when they don't know much about the other person. If you bend the truth this can backfire at a later date. (7) Unless there is a mutual agreement you should not end the date early  But things can go really bad. If you can't take it anymore have a friend help you as a way out. But most of all don't lose sleep over the failed date. Understand that this is not your last date and things will probably be much better on your next date! (8) Take things slow down on the first day.  There is no reason to put pressure on the guy/girl which most times makes them feel uncomfortable.  You don't need to talk about subjects such as religion and politics for the first time, including the depth. Keep an open mind about this and have some fun! (9) If the date is not ehat your looking for this doesn't mean a positive friendship will not build from this. Some people make better friends then lovers and this might be the case with this specific individual. There is no reason, you still have a good time. (10) If this person is someone you met, on a blind date o through the Internet be very careful.  The best plan is to meet somewere were there is a lot of people. The most important thing about dating is to simply have fun and enjoy yourself !!! Dating should be a positive experience that allows you to meet a number of different people from different paths in life.