Finding the Right Girl to Date

The REASON most guys learn to be more successful with women and dating is to find a GREAT one... not just so they can date a million women. Sure, some guys just want to date a lot of women, and aren't "relationship" material.

But I believe that probably 90% of guys who study this area of life do so because they want to have OPTIONS when it comes to women and dating... and they want to be able to meet and date more intelligent, attractive, and interesting women... but ULTIMATELY I think that most guys would like to meet a really nice, attractive woman to share a great relationship with.

And what happens when you learn how to meet women in any situation and you start dating more women? Your standards go UP. Instead of just "settling" for any woman that will go out with you, you start wanting THE BEST and you will work harder to make sure you get the best.

When a guy who hasn't been particularly good with women, gets his first date with an AMAZING and wonderful woman, it will often shake him up... and he'll "forget" everything he's learned and end up doing what hasn't worked for him in the past.

When the stakes go up in life, we humans get nervous.

And this nervousness often hurts us by "blanking" our minds, and makes us SCREW UP... instead of HELPING us by calming us and causing us to remember what we SHOULD be doing.

So how does this translate when it comes to guys dating unusually attractive women for the first time? I think the process goes a little something like this:

1) Become frustrated because he's not having success with women and dating. Decides to do something about it.

2) Starts learning techniques and ideas to improve success. Begins to improve, and realizes that it is possible to have more success with women. Feels excited as results improve.

3) Wakes up one day and realizes that the types of women that were previously "untouchable" are, in fact, within reach. Decides to do something about it.

4) Gets a date with a woman that was previously "out of his league". Instantly becomes aware that this is a VERY important situation. Becomes nervous.

5) Goes out on the date, and acts like a Wuss Bag. Because he knows the MAJOR mistakes to avoid, and the important things to do, still does "OK"... to the point where the woman has a good time, enjoys herself, etc.

6) Goes home and says to self "Self, you'd better not screw this one up. Call her and ask her out again. This girl is RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL. It's OK to call her a lot and act like a Wuss, because she's different. Part of this step is thinking about the girl all the time, and secretly wondering if she's OUT WITH ANOTHER GUY.

7) Proceeds to call and get Date #2 (for the very next night, of course).

8) On Date #2 (or Date #3) says to the girl "You're special. I have FEELINGS for you." (Or something equally emotional, needy, clingy, or Wuss-like.)

9) Calls the amazing girl every day... to the point where she stops returning his calls and starts actively avoiding his calls. Girl finally says something like "I think I need some time ALONE right now in life" or "It's not YOU, it's ME" or "You're such a great guy, and I really like you a lot... but I'm just not ready for a RELATIONSHIP right now", etc.

10) Spends the next couple days letting his mind get the best of him with thoughts like "This girl is amazing and I want her to be my girlfriend, but I acted like a Wuss, and now she only likes me as a friend. What can I do to get her back?"

So there are two pieces to this puzzle:

1) How to get a girlfriend.
2) How to not screw it up when you get one.

In the next 2 articles we will speak more on these pieces of the puzzle.